Free printable · 5 calm scripts

Know what to say before the yelling starts.

The exact words to reach for in the moments that usually end in a raised voice. On your fridge in two minutes.

In the heat of it, instead of

"Why do I have to tell you EVERYTHING twice?!"

you reach for

"I'll wait right here until you're ready to start."

— Script 3 of 5, the "I'm not moving" pause

If this is you

It's not that you don't love them, and it's not that you lack patience. It's that in the half-second when everything boils over, you don't have the right words ready — so the loud ones come out first.

Scripting fixes that. You decide the calm words ahead of time, once, when you're clear-headed. Then in the moment you're not inventing anything. You're just reaching for the line you already picked.

What's on the page

Five lines for the five moments that set most parents off.

Here are two of them. The rest land in your inbox.

The third "no"

"You don't have to like it. You do have to do it. I'll help you start."

The morning meltdown

"We're not going to fix the whole morning. We're just going to find your shoes."

The public scene

"I'm going to keep my voice quiet so you can hear me. Take a breath with me."

+ 2 more in the free printable →

When the free card isn't enough

The full playbook for the hard days.

The printable gives you five lines. The guide gives you the system behind them — so you can write your own scripts for the specific things that set your kid (and you) off.